My boyfriend doesn't want me to meet his friends or family?

I've been seeing him for over a year, started out as friends but quickly became very intense. He's not told his family about me - lies about who he is on holiday with when we go away and I've never met anyone he works with. This has all been fine with me as I am 10 years older than him and have no interest in the old mother-in-law routine etc! been there, done that! But he is going away hiking and climbing with people from his work, males and females, to a place that he knows through me - and I am specifically not invited. he knows I'm upset about this, but says its a 'work' thing... that he organised. Now I'm feeling irritated that he will againt his year celebrate his birthday with his family and not invite me, I'll see him later, and we'll have a lovely, romantic xmas celebration - but I'll sit on my own xmas and boxing day while he is with his family. My family are overseas and my kids go to their dad's. I love him, but am I being a mug? Is it worth making a fuss over?

My boyfriend doesn't want me to meet his friends or family?
Well when I was in the boy scouts they told us a useful thing.





There are two types of girls in this world. Girls you would take home to meet your mother, and girls who you would be ashamed for your mother to see you with.





Sounds like you are in the second category.





Let's face it, this guy is an ********. He's just using you till someone "better" comes along. Ditch the little rat. Because eventually he will ditch YOU.
Reply:...that seems kind of fishy that he doesn't want you to meet his family. I think you should have a serious (rational) talk about the reasons why he keeps two big parts of his life separate. I think you have every right to be upset, but that's just my oppinion.
Reply:Hate to say it but there is something not right. If you are with someone who you are ashamed of then you won't introduce him to your family. A relationship is about being open and honest with eachother, there is obviously something he is not telling you. You shoudl put your foot down and say either you tell you friends and family or walk out the door. Besides you don't know if he is with someone else on the side, which is why he is hiding you from everyone.





Good luck, but to be honest you seem like a nice enough person I am sure you could do better.
Reply:If your boyfriend really loves you,no matter what circumstances is,he will over come anything with his love for you and get you to meet his parents.
Reply:He is obviously ashamed of you for some reason, maybe it's the age gap between the two of you but there is some reason he doesn't want anyone to know about you. I'd get rid of him as he obviously isn't in it for the long haul otherwise you would have met his family and friends ages ago.
Reply:He's not serious about you! that's it!
Reply:i may be completely wrong but it sounds to me like he has another girlfiend that everyone else already knows about which is why he cant introduce you. I dont think anyone would see the one they loved on their own over xmas otherwise.





i would definitely make a fuss u have been together over a year its time u met the parents. xx
Reply:I may be wrong but I feel like he does not respect you as much ash he should, it's like your his "dirty secret" for lack of a better word. If he is as much in love with you as you are him, then he should be proud to show of the person that he can love, cherish, respect and grow with. I think it's time for a little chat with him, no one deserves to be on their own especially at Christmas hunny, take care lots of love xx
Reply:Yeah, it is. I met my boyfriend's parents the first month we started going out.
Reply:i can understand why your making a fuss


ask him perhaps theres a reason why he doesnt want you to meet his family are they too protective over him? are they embarasing?


if you havnt been together long perhaps you could give it time but if youve been together a while it doesnt make sense surely his family want to meet you?


if hes hiding you theres something wrong there in my opinion dont want you to get worried or anything though


if hes shutting you out of his life with his family and work then theres something wrong there


my boyfriend goes out with his friends and family if im not invited then im not at all happy


you are okay to think and feel this its natural id feel the same way
Reply:He suspects you.
Reply:its a bit strange i have always met my mans family after 1-2 weeks of being together. If he loves you why hide you. It doesnt sound fair, if he truly loved you he wouldnt let you spend xmas alone
Reply:OK, I will be frank with you. I met a guy who had the same thing going on, wouldnt take me anywhere near his friends or family, I went along with this for 2 years, until one day, he left his sisters number on the work top, I called her, and my eyes were wide open, he had a girlfriend, a house,and 2 kids, he had been floating between me and her for two years. Im not saying that your man is the same !!!!!! Just ask some questions as to why you are always excluded !!! their has to be a reason especially after a year, and to be honest, you deserve better ! somebody to share your life with and enjoy the holiday times together, nothing worse that spending Xmas on your own, did it, didnt like it, moved on, found a nice man who shares everything with me xx Hope I havnt upset you, but must stress that you need to find some common ground with him, because its all his way, and none yours, and thats so unfair.... wish you luck... and ps, their are if you look hard enough some really decent men out their, just waiting for a decent girl like you. Jan x
Reply:This is an easy one.... TELL HIM TO F**K OFF!
Reply:Have you got ginger hair?