What's a good way to meet new friends?

I'm painfully shy and I don't like making small talk. I'm currently going to community college and working full time. I'm not into meeting people on the internet because of all the risks involved. I getty really shifty and nervous around new people and people usually don't seem to like me much. the only friend I have is my husband. I've tried various activities to get out more but can't find anything I like all that much. And I'm not into bar hopping...

What's a good way to meet new friends?
Have you tried the library yet???


That might be down your alley.
Reply:Going to a church, and joining a singles/youth group. One that you have the SAME beliefs in is the best one.





Praying for you,





Cinderella
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Reply:Myspace.
Reply:try new things, you have to know what you like, what type of music do you enjoy?, and then go to places where they have concerts or in small cafe's with that type of music, like literature?, go to a place where they talk about that, like sports?, etc., look for people that have an interest in what you have and take it from there, but I think It will start by chatting something in particular, so look for an atmosphere that you enjoy...good luck and be yourself, that is the point of it all and you will see that the shyness will disappear with people that you feel comfortable with
Reply:Going to Hamburger world!
Reply:Even though you're shy, you need to learn to be approachable. Go to events and participate in things, people like to talk. Though small talk seems dumb, it's an essential way to make friends.


Also, you want to be open when you meet someone, but not too open. In other words, you can discuss your favourite book with them, but not your hemorrhoid.
Reply:Ugh. You do have a dilemma. It would be easier if you there was an activity you enjoyed and then you could look for other like people. I am similar to you and recently made a discovery about making new friends: sometimes you have to make the effort.





Try posting your question here again and include your e-mail address (not your main e-mail - create one just for these responses). Chances are you're going to hear back from people just like you -- including me. Then you can build from there.





Then, as you meet people from your area, you suggest or start something: a book club, a travel club, going to a movie, a shopping date, a "shy girl's breakfast date", a get away from the kids, husband, work and school coffee meet: whatever you want. Or ask for suggestions. It might be easier to make one friend and have coffee than a club -- but one step at a time.





If you're in Chicago, count me in.
Reply:What are your interests? Have you thought of doing an activity that takes your mind off your shyness like a sport something that takes concentration and teamwork. You could also try walking groups as that tends to take the pressure of and is relaxed being outdoors. I found with my shyness that the only way sometimes was to be thrown in at the deep end as a with a waitress or bar maid job - it works as there is no option to be shy!
Reply:just be yourself aslong as u have someone u have no worries
Reply:join a club or an activity. you will find stuff to talk about with people there because you are obviuosly interested in whatever club you join